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  1. CATHY Underwood said:

    We have a cat named alice that my husband rescued from his shop 4 years ago and she is not friendly with me at all but I am not mean to her.. I just am the person that puts her up at nite and she really doesnt like me and I dont like her.. I just had surgery on August 26th 2016 and havent been in the bedroom sleeping for 3 weeks.. I have been sleeping in a recliner but I have started sleeping there the last week and Alice has been peeing on my side of the bed… what is going on with her? help or we will be getting rid of her and I really dont want to do that … she is my husbands pride and joy…

    September 18, 2016
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    • Brittany, Paul, and Yoda =^^= said:

      Thanks Cathy for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear that Alice is acting out towards you! It sounds like Alice is stressed because you have just recently come back to sleeping in the bedroom, she must’ve enjoyed her ‘territory’ while you were semi-away. Since she is specifically targeting your side of the bed, it is her way of showcasing her discontent/social tension with you.
      First, it’s important to observe if this behavior is indeed caused because of your return (it seems like it!) But, be careful and make sure that this isn’t due to a physical problem. If you are unsure, please check with your vet first as there could be an underlying health issue.
      Did Alice pee on your side of the bed before you had surgery? Or was it only after the 3 weeks where you slept on the recliner and came back?
      Some solutions you could try would be to keep Alice out of the bedroom entirely (day/night) so that she cannot have access to your side of the bed. This would show her that it is your territory. However, keep an eye on her to make sure she is not peeing elsewhere in the house (where you often sit, for example). You could also try placing a plastic tarp on your side of the bed as this texture would be less appealing to Alice. Otherwise and in the meantime, try to swoon her with treats when she does come to you, or when she lets you pet her. Trying to establish a good connection with her would be the best solution long-term.
      We hope this helps! Please let us know how Alice is doing in a few days/weeks.
      – Brittany and Paul

      September 18, 2016
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  2. Samantha W said:

    Hi! So my roommate and I collectively rescued this cat from the shelter around a year ago. She’s been fine the first few months after coming home, but started peeing my bed around month 4. Ever since, she would always pee the same area at the end of my bed regardless of if I’m in or out of the room. She would never pee on my roommates bed, just mine. Does she hate me or something? We are both like mothers to her and I don’t understand what the problem is. I try to keep her out of my room, buy new bedsheets, and even switched mattresses. Somehow, she still manages to sneak in two or three times a month to soak my bed. I clean her litter 3 times a day! She has been tested by the vets and I can’t figure out what might have caused her stress!
    Would be amazing if you could lend some advice 🙂
    Thank you
    Samantha

    October 6, 2016
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    • Brittany, Paul, and Yoda =^^= said:

      Hi Samantha! Thanks for sharing your story with us. We hope we will be able to lend some helpful information. Something has definitely happened to make her feel ‘contempt’ towards you and therefore, targeting/peeing only on your bed like you mentioned. Normally this behavior doesn’t just happen; there is usually a stressor causing her to be stressed and she is linking that stress to you. Are you the one that feeds/waters her every day or is it your roommate? She might also be jealous/territorial, and peeing on your bed is her way of showing that to you. If the vet has not indicated anything unusual, it is probably due to her feeling stressed about you in someway, though we imagine she doesn’t hate you! She may have become more easily attached to your roommate in the first few months and now she is displaying jealousy. If I were you, try to do things with her that she will associate love and positivity with, like being her caretaker (aka food and water, toys, playtime, cuddles, treats…) The more you can associate yourself with good/things she enjoys, the less likely she will feel stressed and act out by peeing on your bed.
      I hope you can identify her stress soon and resolve this issue! Let us know what works when you figure it out. We would like to hear how she is doing.
      All the best!

      October 8, 2016
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  3. Lyn miller said:

    we have a new kitten…a rescue kitty who appears to have adapted to the change wonderfully. We have had her 2 weeks. On day 2, she peed on our bed and 3 more times since then. Her litter tray is cleaned, she uses the litter box without fuss, for both wee and poo, but seems to have a thing to “christen” the bed…. to-night, just after she had peed in her litter tray! So frustrating, as we have had to wash the doona now 4 times. I sponged all properly the first couple of times, then ended up at the Laundromat to really do it properly. We are now going to keep her out of our room but I have loved having our other kitty in bed with us and hoped to do this with this one. I just don’t trust her! could it be , that because she did it once, it is a habit? or just an impulse? do you think she will grow out of doing this. I have never had this happen on what I call a regular basis,. the odd little accident when my other cats were new to the home. I am worried this will be a regular thing with kitty…. ideas?? please

    October 17, 2016
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    • Brittany, Paul, and Yoda =^^= said:

      Hi Lyn,

      Excuse us for the delay! Congrats on adopting your new rescue kitty, that is always an exciting moment in life! It is however very unfortunate to hear that she is behaving oddly – especially since you mention that there are no problems with her using the litter box. How long ago did you have your other cat? It would appear that your new rescue kitty quickly picked up on the scent of the other cat and is “acting out” in a territorial way. If your other cat slept with you on the bed, it’s possible that his/her scent is still lingering, which may be triggering your new kitten to pee. As you mentioned, it is indeed a good idea to keep her out of your room. Observe how she behaves. If she is not peeing elsewhere, then the “trigger” is most likely due to the lingering scent/territory in your bedroom. If you haven’t tried already, try putting a litterbox in your bedroom as well – since she uses it well, it may encourage her to hop down and use the loo properly rather than going on your bed. You may have to do a little detective work to figure out the issue. It could be the tiniest problem which needs resolving such as the scent of the litter itself. If she doesn’t like the smell, this could instigate her to go wee somewhere else. Try using unscented litter if this is the case. Hopefully soon you will be able to find the real issue that is making her do this, but until then keep trying and don’t give up! Thanks for sharing your story with us and do let us know if there is any progress with your new kitten in the future!

      October 25, 2016
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  4. Kate said:

    A new roommate (and her sweet friendly cat Howie) moved into my apartment a month ago and my cat Sebastian (he is 4 years old & fixed) is not happy about it. When Howie moved in I purchased feliway wall plugins hoping that would smooth out the introduction process. We’ve done our best to keep them separated and slowly introduce them, but Sebastian got out once and he aggressively chased Howie and it looked like he was going to attack him if we hadn’t broken the fight up with pillows and a blanket. Ever since Howie moved in I’ve noticed that Sebastian is very stressed and anxious. When he gets worked up he’s shedding like he does at the vet’s office. Over the past 2 weeks he’s been peeing in my bedroom when we shut him in there to let Howie out. His peeing has escalated from my closet to my bed today. I’m at a loss as to what to try next. I cannot let the bad behavior of peeing in my room continue, but Howie isn’t going anywhere and needs to spend some time in the common area so I can’t remove what is causing the peeing. Any advice/ideas would be greatly appreciated.

    April 21, 2017
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    • Brittany said:

      Hi Kate! As we just told our other commentator, our replies made to questions on the 21st April never appeared on the site, so we are unsure if you received our first reply or not. In any case, here is what we recommend for your roommate and your cat Sebastian. Introducing cats is a very tricky situation. It requires lots of patience and time! We recommend slowly introducing them first through closed doors. Place both of their food bowls on either side of the door, so that when they both eat at the same time, they can smell each other across the door and associate it with the positive reward of food. Do this for a few days, and then crack the door open just a little. Repeat this across two weeks until they can eat with the door wide open. This does take time, but the results are usually very positive! We had to do this with our Yoda once and it really worked well. Limit any confrontation as much as possible, and when you see them calm looking at each other or being around each other, you can reward them with a treat and let them know their behavior is good. Sebastian is being territorial and it’s quite normal. Is Howie fixed as well? If not, it will be a good idea. When Sebastian pees on your bed, he is showing stress and discontent because of the situation and he’s taking it out on your bed. Restart the introduction process and do it very slowly. We hope that by now the situation has ameliorated just a little, and we’re really sorry if our previous reply never reached you! If you have any further questions, do let us know. Best of luck!

      May 1, 2017
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  5. Patricia Blakey said:

    Hi we have 2 cats, “bella” was a rescue we’ve had for 7 yrs, last year we got “bullet”, a female. Bullet had a litter 4 weeks ago, 5 adorable kittens. She pooped on my bed before giving birth , which I understood. I just got home to find not only did she pee, but pooped again on my side of the bed!! What’s the deal? She is healthy, and the litter box is clean. I give up! Any suggestions would be appreciated.

    May 1, 2017
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    • Brittany said:

      Hi Patricia,
      Thanks for your message. It seems like Bullet’s behavior is unrelated to the semi-new relationship with Bella. It’s possible that with the new litter, Bullet is stressed about Bella’s presence around her babies. Though we can’t tell you the exact problem, you’re right in knowing that there is something going on! First try to identify all possible problems. You mentioned that the litter box is clean, but does Bullet share the same litter box with Bella? Bullet’s behavioral change seems directly related to her babies, so sharing anything with the other cat Bella might be stressing her out. Try and get a new litter box, just for Bullet. Also try to separate Bella from Bullet and her babies, to see if that’s what is causing Bullet’s stress. Though it could be due to other reasons, such as not liking her food, it seems like it’s the stress of being a new mother 😉 We hope we could help throw some ideas around and hopefully Bullet’s behavior will get back to normal quickly. Let us know her progress if you can to see what worked and what didn’t, your feedback will be helpful for us to learn more about this, too. Thanks Patty and good luck!

      May 1, 2017
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